My Lifestyle Website + A New Chapter Begins

Valerie McFarland Blog, lifestyle website

Hi there friend-

The idea for this lifestyle website began a few months ago when I began my journey to live a healthier and more joyful life. Before that, I was stuck in the cycle of trying to do it all. To be everyone to everybody. I was chronically overwhelmed and felt like I was constantly failing. For a perfectionist, this is soul-crushing. And it soon began to affect my physical and emotional health. I was constantly tired and dealing with anxiety for the first time in my life. This went on for a few months. Finally, the sudden death of a close family friend woke me up to the fact that life is too short and I decided to dig my head out of the sand and make changes. Or risk missing this beautiful one before me.

Here’s how the rest of it played out…

The first big step was quitting my dream job at Biscuit to become a stay-at-home-mom. It was one of the toughest decisions of my life. I still miss being surrounded by those creative women and working in a small business environment. However, I knew deep down it was the best next thing for my family.  Around the same time, we started exploring uprooting our lives and moving back to the East Coast to be closer to our network of family & friends there. And for a slower pace of life rather than the city living of Houston, TX. When David’s current job became available we jumped at the opportunity and a few weeks later we were moving in with my parents while we began our house hunt in Richmond, Virginia. During this yearlong whirlwind, we bought a fixer-upper, completely renovated it top-to-bottom and finally moved in a few months ago.

I’m writing this post from the couch in our new family room while my babies are at summer camp. Recently, I have had some time to reflect on the last year and a half. My life looks completely different. But most importantly, I feel completely different too. These changes  have added up to something great. And I’m being honest, it wasn’t always easy. It was scary leaping into the unknown but I lept anyway and I did the hard work. every. single. day. It’s these changes (big and small) that I want to help you with too.

Do you want to know something else that surprised me? The small changes matter just as much as the big ones. Perhaps even more since they propel us forward to feel confident in making those big changes. Here are a few that worked for me: I began having green smoothies every morning. I started working out (first thing in the morning) consistently again. I practiced gratitude. I drank more water. A lot of water. I prioritized self-care. I started asking for help. I am now fully convinced that these little things have the power to change your life if you make them daily habits.

That’s where you come in. If you find yourself stuck in the cycle of perfectionism or constant overwhelm. I’m here to say that I see you. I know what it’s like to feel like you aren’t living up to the perfect wife or mom or colleague or ____ (fill in the blank) because that was me too.  I want this community we are starting here to inspire you and help you.

Stay connected by joining my email list, where I will send out helpful tips and tricks that work for me. Or come back to this website when you need some encouragement or food for thought. I hope to post updates weekly on the things I am learning. And I hope to have some fun along the way too – with design tips and tricks, posts about motherhood or fun date night ideas. You can also check out my About Page for more information.

Please email me at if you have comments or questions. It makes me so happy to hear from you.

One thing I know for sure, life is not guaranteed. I don’t want you to waste another precious minute of it with regret or anxiety or overwhelm. I’m here to help! Let’s live a better, more purposeful life together. As one of my favorite authors and podcast hosts, Gretchen Rubin says, ONWARDS & UPWARDS.



  1. Chelsie
    July 27, 2019 / 10:43 pm

    Will be keeping up from Texas! ❤️

    • valeriesmcfarland
      July 30, 2019 / 6:15 pm

      Thank you Chelsie! Miss YOU! XO

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