Welcome! I’m Valerie McFarland, a proud wife to the tallest redhead you’ve seen and an energetic twin mama. I’m a born and bred Virginia girl but spent the last 10 years as a Texan too so by now you can call me sugar & spice, and all those things nice.
I’m a morning person (forever and ever amen) and you can usually find me around 5 am each morning with a cup of coffee and my journal or a book. It’s the only quiet moment of my day and the reason I’m still smiling.
I spent the first five years of my career working for an investment bank in New York City and Houston. I was unfulfilled, over-worked and bored. So with the support of my husband, I decided to take a huge leap from the very stuffy banking sector into the creative industry. I landed my dream job working for esteemed and talented Bailey McCarthy as her interior design assistant. I loved the job from the moment I walked in the door and learned so much about the pursuit of passion and lady-boss leadership from the Biscuit team.
After three years working with the Biscuit team, then as the COO, I gave birth to my sweet twins. And that’s when I quickly got overwhelmed by what society tells us we need to be as women. Perfect moms, perfect wives, perfect daughters/friends/you name it. I couldn’t do it all and I constantly felt like I was failing. Internally, I felt so much shame for not being the colleague I knew I could be and shame for what I thought was “failing” daily raising my children. And forget about being a perfect wife, David’s job had him traveling so much for work that we barely saw each other.
I had a huge wake-up call one morning when my mom called to tell me that my life-long friend had passed away. It was devastating. At that moment, I realized that something had to change. Life was too precious to stay stuck in this constant cycle of feeling like I wasn’t living into my passion. I needed my priorities re-aligned. So I made changes – both big and small – and today my life looks completely different. It’s not perfect – but I’ve realized that is what life is all about. And I’m taking it step-by-step trying to be a better version of myself every day than the I was the last. I know it’s possible to live for more. I want that for you too, sweet friend.
Do you ever find yourself in the same overwhelmed/stuck cycle? I did too. I hope that by visiting this website and joining my email list here you will find ideas on how to live a healthier, more vibrant and joyful life.
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